“What me? I didn’t do it yo!”
What’s with cords and babies? Why are they so interested in them? It’s a shame you can’t use a lamp cord or a laptop cord as a baby toy. Stupid strangulation hazard! But guess who decided it would be fun to jump out of his crib? Tobie and I were in the Cole’s room brushing Paige’s teeth, when all of the sudden I see Cole hoisting his feet over the rail. It was like watching him fall in slow motion. He hit the ground pretty hard, but is fine. His new thing now is to grab the top of the rail and alternate trying to lift each foot up. Bring on the crib tents! When do we get a break? 18, 19 years?
Is it possible for the babies to be going through their terrible twos early? They just put up so much resistance to everything. It’s great they have little personalities, but come on, do you have to whine about everything?
Cole’s is just begging to start walking. He tries so hard. Our PT says there is no way he’s going to be walking before the end of the year. It’s hard to believe that prediction will hold true, but she was right on the money with predicting when the babies would start sitting. Paige is still crawling and rolling. It’s kind of sad because she really doesn’t enjoy crawling. She might be a little scared when she crawls.
Speaking of Paige, her anxiety is so bad. She has stranger anxiety, basically when she’s around anyone but us, she can’t stop crying (today’s episode was 40 minutes of sobbing and crying). She also has separation anxiety. She has to be near Tobie, almost to the point of Tobie touching her so she’ll be calm, ALL DAY LONG. It’s the damnest thing. Tobie’s mom said she is going to start coming over 3 times a week for one hour to help with the stranger anxiety (Tobie will leave the house with Cole during that time). Maybe a couple of weeks without Tobie around for a little bit and she’ll grow out of it. Dr. E has recommended a baby psychologist who deals with separation/overattachment issues (who knew they made such things!). Anyone dealt with these anxiety issues before? I would love to hear about these types of situations and how you dealt with them.
Tobie here: Seriously, Eric was not over exaggerating about Paige. She wears me out with her tantrums and flailings if I’m not next to her. It’s so sad because when I am playing with her or hanging out next to her she’s the happiest kid and gives me smiles and kisses and can’t get enough of me. God forbid if I need to go to the bathroom, feed Cole, or anything else that requires me to be away from her.
I had another OB appt today. The baby is doing good and I’m still feeling really good so we decided not to do any more fetal fibronectins. There were a lot of high-fives at the appt for making it past 30 weeks, but my OB said the real victory will be making it to 32 weeks because a baby born at 32 weeks has the same survival outcomes as a full-term baby. Not so sure about that….but sounds good. We also discussed that I’ll probably only have one more ultrasound before the baby is born which will be in 4 weeks. Even though I still have over 9 weeks until my due date, I can’t help but get excited that it’s getting so close and reachable!! Something else that is odd is that I only gained 1 pound over the last two weeks. The odd part is that I’ve eaten well over one pound of ice cream in the last two weeks (dang super chunky cookie dough flavor) but again it’s the cumulative weight gain that’s important and I’m an overachiever in that area.
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As for “Seperation anxiety” I have no clues how to help. But it is so great to hear that the baby is doing so good. Eat all the ice cream you want for the next 9 or so weeks, while you have an excuse:) I was an overachiever in that department also:)
Shal
Glad to hear the babies are doing so well! Wanna place bets on when Cole will be walking? It is hard to believe that he wouldn’t be walking by the end of the year….my guess is he will be walking by May.
Our doctors didn’t think they would be walking anytime before they were 18-19 months and all 3 were walking at 15 months (they were born at 26 wks).
I still love reading your updates! And way to go Tobie on your pregancy!
Sorry, I don’t have any advice on the seperation anxiety. My mom is here EVERY DAY so the babies are used to her. I also leave them with her when she is here to go grocery shopping so maybe that helped. How does Paige do at night when she has to go to bed? Leaving her with your mom may be a great idea to help Paige.
it is amazing that Cole is trying to getout of his crib. We are lucky that none of ours are trying to do this. Zoe has been walking for some time now. We tell people they are 15 months (which is a comboof their actual and adjsuted age). Aidan and Ella are close but don’t want to let go of our hands to walk on their own.
I am just jealous that you are still seeing Dr. E. We haven’t seen her for a year now. Supposedly we will see her when our babies turn 2 for their next eval.
It is wonderful to hear about your pregnancy. And I agree with teh pp, eat all the ice cream you want. Sometimes I wonder if I would like to experience a normal pregnancy but then my DH jsut looks at me like I am crazy!!
Suzan
What I have taken to doing, as we’ve had quite a bit of the separation anxiety the past 2 months or so, is randomly throughout the day (as possible), sticking her in her crib, in her room alone, with her ‘friends’ and letting her have quiet time. Even if she screams and cries and carries on, I leave her for 15 minutes (enough time to throw a load of laundry on, shovel food into my mouth so that I can be a non pregnant overachiever or whatever I need that 15 mins for) and then I go back to her and talk to her. Sometimes I take her out, sometimes not, depends on the sobbing.. if she’s hyperventilating, then ya, but if its crocodile tears, I don’t. We play patty cakes or her ‘friends’ play with us or the cat comes to check things out. Ultimately, my goal is that if she can relate that I am not gone for good to this safe place, that perhaps it will get better.. and it seems to be.
On Wednesday we had an appointment with speech pathology and I had to leave her alone with a man in a room for 7 minutes and it was only the last minute and a half that she realized I was gone and got upset. It was kind of interesting to watch her interact when she didn’t realize I was watching. Anyways I digress.. Perhaps not necessarily her bed is appropriate for Paige, but maybe her playpen in another room?
Your mom coming over Tobie, should hopefully help too but it might take a few weeks. Cole seems to have figured out that Daddy returns daily from work and gets all excited, so you might have to pull a switchero and make a big deal over her when you come back. And by switchero, I mean that your mom walks out the door as you walk in and goes to stay with Cole for 5 or so minutes in the car so that Paige has your undivided attention for that 5 minutes to allow you to make a big deal over her. Does that make sense?
Anyways, those are my 10 cents.
I think I forgot to comment on how freakin cute Cole and Paige are. And what a monster jumping out of the crib. Lane can’t even do that. Can’t wait to see them.
Shal
A friend of mine had a kiddo with the same issues - he freaked out when I came near him when she was HOLDING HIM. They worked on overcoming it by having a friend come over to their house a couple of times a week. At first mom didn’t leave the room the whole time. Then she’d leave the room… then she’d leave the house. I think eventually he got over the anxiety.
So your plan seems like a good one.
Sorry to hear about your anxiety problems. Dylan is just starting to get to it. He doesn’t freak out when other people are around, but he does have the “as long as some tiny part of mommy’s body is touching me I’m ok otherwise I scream” disease. I have no idea what to tell you. I invested in an and wear him on my back whenever I need to get stuff done. Since I obviously have no experience with two I have no idea if that would help you or not.
I went through something similiar with Nixon, but maybe not quite as bad. He was pretty attached - if anyone elso was around he would just cling to me and scream. The only way we got him to break the habit was getting him hooked on a “lovey” - a blue monkey blanket which is now totally disgusting. He isn’t nearly as clingy now, but the downside is I will eventually have to break a lovey habit.
Good Luck!